After I was engaged, I all but ran to the store to purchase my first bridal magazine. I spent a long car ride flipping through the pages, mesmerized by the glitzs and glamour of big budget weddings. As a magazine editor, I should have know better, but it didn’t stop my inner bride from wanting the same gold-rimmed plates at a reception and flowing Hollywood-style hair. National magazines have stylists and a team of employees behind the scenes at weddings. The average working woman can’t recreate a Hollywood wedding, or rent out a Ferris wheel for guests. (One California couple really did this at their wedding.) Another misleading online addiction for wedding planners is Pinterest. The site, which is categorized by photos, is a bride’s best friend. I have found a lot of good ideas, some budget friendly, some not. It is a good place to get ideas, but if plan your wedding solely on Pinterest, be ready for reality, or plan to win the lottery.
So how do you avoid turning into a crying, nervous bridezilla? Create a support system. I am the last of my friends to walk down the aisle. Their advice has been comforting, so has their friendship. I helped each one with their weddings. I helped plan their showers, picked out bridesmaid dresses, made decorations and more. The typical bridesmaid duties. But it goes deeper. Friendship, the kind that forms outside of wedding planning, is invaluable. When things don’t go exactly as planned or when the cake doesn’t look exactly like it was promised, a true friend encourages and comforts a bride. The ones who comfort are the same people who keep brides from turning into bridezilla. The hot mess is taking care of by others. Stressful moments are lightened up by caring acts of friendships and a bit of humor from the maid of honor who likes to crack jokes. Wedding planning has opened my eyes to a different kind of stress. It takes friends, family and a good-humored fiancé to keep a bride from falling victim to any of these bridezilla symptoms — overreacting, crying, pouting, rolling of the eyes, stomping off, just to name a few. Without them, it would be a hot mess for sure. Here is to keeping it real — and not ordering a Ferris wheel, just because of the pretty photo ops.
Jamie Parsell is the Lifestyle editor of the Daily Telegraph. Contact her at email@example.com or on Twitter @BDTParsell.