DEAR ABBY: Several salespersons recently have ended our transaction by saying, “Have a blessed day.” The last two times it happened, I stopped and asked, “What do you mean by that?” Both of them stammered and didn’t know what to say.
One said, “I’m sort of religious.” I replied that I’m atheist. I don’t think these folks realize what they’re saying. The next time it happens, I plan to respond by asking Zeus to bestow blessings upon them as well.
Why do people feel they have a right to force their religious beliefs on customers? — ANNOYED ATHEIST IN TEXAS
DEAR ANNOYED ATHEIST: I seriously doubt they are trying to proselytize. The expression may be regional. Or the person may feel that “blessed” is synonymous with “good,” “happy” or “safe.” If you wish to invoke the blessings of Zeus upon them, feel free to do so. But don’t be surprised if you have a heck of a time getting waited on the next time you visit the establishment.
DEAR ABBY: I have been in a relationship with “Ward” for two years. I love him and everything is great except for one thing. He refuses to compromise when it comes to his family functions.
He’s very close to his extended family, and every time there’s an event like a recent graduation party for a cousin, he never wants to leave. We were there for 10 hours, and I spent more than half of it either alone or talking to someone I didn’t know well because Ward had ditched me.
I have spoken to him about this, but he’s unwilling to compromise. He says his family knows him as “the social guy” and expects him to stay late and be the life of the party. It’s getting old that he makes me feel like the bad guy or a party-pooper when I want to leave.
We have had big fights over this. I’m not sure what to do. This has caused a rift in our relationship. — FAMILY-FUNCTIONED OUT IN MINNESOTA
DEAR FAMILY-FUNCTIONED OUT: When the next family function rolls around, go in separate cars. That way you can leave when you get tired, and Ward can stay as long as he wants. No harm, no foul, no fights.