Bluefield Daily Telegraph, Bluefield, WV

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November 8, 2013

Teens transform with Young Life

— — Natalie admits she was partying and doing the “typical high school things on the weekend” when a girl at her school told her about Young Life. “Well, it’s like youth group, but better. Everyone goes!” the girl told her.

“So I thought, “Why not?’” Natalie said. “I was the only sophomore. Everyone was either a junior or senior, and I thought ‘Wow, I’m hanging out with all the cool kids!’ ”

“She was lost in the high school world,” says Lake Norman, N.C., Young Life Area Director Ashley Flowers, who watched the transformation in Natalie. “She was partying ... and in the midst of it all, she only felt lost and empty.”

But for the first month, Natalie admits, she didn’t get much out of it: “I would just zone out when the leaders began to mention God or Jesus because I was angry with God, and didn’t really understand why I needed to hear about him.”

Eventually, she started hanging out one-on-one with one of the leaders. “I think that’s really when I started to understand that Young Life was a place where leaders (who love Jesus, and follow Him) come and meet me where I am,” Natalie said. “I didn’t have to find them, I didn’t have to ‘clean up my act,’ or change who I am for these people to like me and want to be my friend. I realized that they just really wanted me to have what they had, which was to be a part of their family and to know Jesus.”

Director Flowers remembers how Natalie’s approach changed, even physically: “She really leaned into the talk at the end of every club where a leader would get up and share about Jesus. She had so many questions. She then began coming to campaigners (the small group Bible study) and bought her very first Bible.

“She was sometimes a pain in the butt because she had a truly pessimistic attitude and was a bit judgmental,” adds Flowers, “but as she spent time with her leaders, and they poured into her, she was becoming a different person. She stopped partying (and) began loving people around her.”

Natalie says she didn’t have to pretend to be something she wasn’t to feel good about herself or accepted. “At club, you get to sing your heart out and play crazy games with your friends, and at campaigners you get to have an open discussion about Jesus and ask questions about Him,” she said. “Young Life is a safe place where people will love you no matter who you are.”

It doesn’t matter if you are a talented athlete or student body president, teens in high school are often lonely, insecure and looking to belong. “I really didn’t feel like I was worth anything,” said Wesley, on a video presentation I watched a few years ago — just days after seeing her crowned Homecoming queen. “I felt like I didn’t have any value. I didn’t care about other people. I was kind of shallow, selfish. I didn’t care about them — why should they care about me?”

But Young Life turned her around and the big smile on her face, with or without the glittering crown, was the outer evidence of the inner transformation.

Cassidy was raised in her family church but joined Young Life because she thought it was a good way to fit in at school. “During the beginning of the year everyone wants to go to Young Life. It actually does feel like the cool thing to do because everyone at school is talking about it. 

“I think what people fail to realize,” she continued, “is that people are drawn in to something there. It doesn’t just happen because it’s a social scene. It happens because there are people there who make high schoolers feel wanted and, for the first time in many peoples’ lives, they get to hear the greatest love story ever told. I think, more importantly, it’s a place to go where your image doesn’t matter anymore.”

“What I hear from kids who don’t come to Young Life is that it is hypocritical because we allow kids who drink or smoke to come,” Flowers said. “And my response to that usually is ... would you rather they not come to hear about God and possibly change their life?”

Young Life doesn’t always click with everyone. “I am no different from those people, but it seemed as if they were almost in denial,” said one young woman. “They seemed to show fake, or maybe just separate, personalities when they were at Young Life than they showed when they were at school, parties, (or) spring break.”

But the young woman went to the summer camp where she had a chance to see a “whole new side to a lot of people who like to keep those sides of themselves hidden. It was a special moment to hear people being so honest and vulnerable. Young Life is really one of those things where you get out of it what you put into it. If they choose to focus on going for God rather than the popularity or social status they may gain from it, they will get everything and more from Young Life.”

Natalie, now a freshman in college, is training to be a Young Life volunteer leader: “I can’t wait to share the great story about Jesus with other high school kids who are just like the high school me: broken, confused and lonely. I can’t wait to go out and meet all the other ‘Natalie’s’ in the high schools and just get to know them and show them Jesus’s love for them.”

Bluefield Young Life will be holding its first club event in the next few months. More information is available from Bluefield Area Director Justin Cason, at casonja@gmail.com  

Jaletta Albright Desmond is a columnist who writes about faith, family and the fascinatingly mundane aspects of daily life. She lives in North Carolina with her family. Contact her at jdesmond@bdtonline.com.

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